To Let Them Fail, or Not to Let Them Fail? That is the Question:

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On LinkedIn, Jeff made a great comment to a previous post, that inspired this thinking. Here was his comment:

“It’s okay for your teammates to have failures along the way. It helps them learn and it allows the leader to mentor and ultimately help that team member win the race in the end.”

Thank you, Jeff.

Great point about giving Mentors the opportunity to step in and help unfortunately, sometimes I watch leaders who stand on the sidelines, observe the “failure”, point out the failure, get mad and say things like, “ I told you what to do” or “Why are you doing it like that?” or, “I’ve already told you how to do it. Why are you wasting your time trying to do it your own way.” and then they turn all MMA and Tap Out leaving them to fend for themselves.

The most disheartening moment is when the team gets to the end and the leader gets to be right that their team member failed. Well, I don’t know many effective and powerful leaders who want to be right about predicting that somebody’s going to fail. The distinction here is effective and powerful. There are leaders who enjoy that moment, but I would assert that they are not actually leaders at all. Right?

It takes no leadership skills, or leadership training to watch someone fail.

Let’s talk about this, Fail or Not to Fail, from a little different perspective.

Last weekend I was in yoga class where Teachers in Training were learning about hands on assists. We, the students, were there to participate in our own yoga practice AND be the “guinea pigs”, the people who were saying yes go ahead and learn what you need to learn and I’m willing to be a part of your education.

As we were in the class, 10 Teachers in Training moved from student to student, and once we were in a pose, they would then put their hands on you and indicate an adjustment that could help.

Here’s an example: One of the things they talk about all the time is that your shoulder blades should come toward your spine to increase their engagement.

As I was holding one of the 5,000 Warrior positions we did that day, one of the trainees put their hands gently on my back and massaged the shape of the shoulder blade action, and in that moment I had the option to say either “yes, I accept that encouragement/ suggestion” or “no, I don’t”. I got to choose whether I was going to be coachable.

As I was making my choice, it dawned on me that this person was actually on the mat with me. They were literally standing on my mat. They weren’t outside the room thinking, “Oh my, look at the way she’s doing that pose. She could be doing better” They were physically on my mat offering encouragement and assistance.

Now “physically encouraging” people at work is probably not the right thing to do, but grasp the concept. Ok? To be clear, I am not telling you to physically touch someone or to literally get on a mat with them. No lawsuits here.

It’s interesting though, when you’re being an effective and powerful leader, you are “on the mat” with them and yes you are looking at what they’re currently doing but you’re also looking at what’s the potential in this very moment for that other person.

This is when the idea of failing hit me. We have to be willing to get on the mat with people and even though I was already in a pose that was “the right pose” the trainees would come by and offer encouragement by lightly touching my wrist which would provide the stimulus (yes I said stimulus) for me to reach a little higher. It was fascinating because even though I thought, “ Wow, I am at my edge.” And as soon as they touched my wrist, I found more space for a fuller expression of the pose AND new confidence that I could go farther and not die in the process. (My yoga friends will understand that feeling)

When the instructor is leading from the front of the room, they may not come around and do physical adjustments but they are in the room with us and they are there looking at us and offering real-time cues that could make a difference in our practice. They are present, in the moment, and they are either physically “on the mat” or they are verbally “on the mat” with us.

When we, as leaders, are not on the mat we are basically sitting on the sidelines observing and 9 times out of 10 are simply judging whether they are doing it right or not. Then when we go to communicate that we have found them wanting (thank you A Knight’s Tale) they do not receive it. Shocking!

I loved Jeff’s point. Yes, people will struggle and beautiful things happen through the struggle, or should I say, on the other side of the struggle. As they are struggling, we don’t jump in and do it for them, that would definitely sabotage their development, but we also don’t just tap out and say you’re on your own.

We keep looking at what is possible for them, what is the potential that we see in them and we step into every moment with them and offer encouragement. That’s powerful, harmonic leadership.

What is it that you come up against when you see people failing? Do you tap out and say, “Man I’ve done everything I can do” or do you get “on the mat”?

If you have questions about getting “On the Mat” or think that you are “On the Mat” and want to think out loud to double check, schedule a call here.

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Pamela

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